A note on Happiness OR FB is my frienemy
Learning about happiness has been a harder road than one might expect. Most people would think that, naturally, happiness would be easy and good and that t would just come to you, but most people would be wrong hah!
We ll have moments of happiness and joy that sneak up on us or overwhelm us in those excellent moments of celebration; birth of a child, good news for a family member or friend, a shared victory, an underdog win for your favourite hockey team. However it looks to you, those moments are really great and welcome and warm us when the dark times come.
Life is cyclical and it will always have ups and downs, its nature in all of its patterns just doing what it does. How we respond and process those ups and downs is really key, and Im finding, harder than I thought.
I have been dealing with a concept for awhile now (Over a decade, maybe?) regarding people in my life. Its a simple equation; do the pros outweigh the cons of this person in my life? This simple rule applies to everyone, family and friends. The truth is that we all have some weeding of the proverbial gardening that we can do in our lives that would in fact lead to better overall living. The trick is that its hard and sometimes messy, painful even.
The benefits of not having toxic personalities in ones life cant be understated. My personal issue is allowing these figures to stick around longer than they should because my "Pros" list isnt really the standard list. As with anything in life, revision and growth. Learning from things is the key...
which brings me to Facebook.
So I have been trying to get better at maintaining a semblance of peace during hard times. I want to say I have been successful but fuck that, I stumble and fail. It happens, probably gonna happen again and thats ok too. overall the steps are in the right direction; forward.
Facebook has been a source of entertainment (Which is usually a pro to me), but also has dragged me down and been a pain in the ass more times than not. Im as much to blame as anyone for allowing it, and allowing the buzz to get to me. Its not real life. I need to remind myself of that more than ever, The past year of negative US politics and so much garbage for news has really gotten to me. My personal life over the past year and a bit have been difficult, to understate the facts.
Its the equivalent of coming home from a really bad day at work and having to fight and argue with your loved ones all night. FB no longer brings me enough entertainment and no peace. It is a big tie sink and a lame addiction, Ive taken sabbaticals from it before and this is the same thing, a detox, but slightly different. Ill still be online, but Im rationing my usage. December has a bunch of stuff happening for obvious reasons and Ill need to check in on events but the goal is to actively check in and do any work/check ins/comments once a month. Just one day a month.
Once I post this on my page, Ill delete the app from my phone (My biggest distraction) and move on from there.
I want to maintain happiness and FB has more cons than pros now so, like all else, its got to go.
I want to chase my happiness, not another top 10 article, or "You'll never guess what happens next"...
I also will be trying an experiment in lessening my phone usage in general. Anyone else feel like their memory is shot and just feel dumber?
This topic seems to be coming up more and more with various people and its curious...but like, curious like something terrible is hiding in the basement curious, not curious like something cute and cuddly.
ahhhh devices, you're taking over the world, and we are the meat sack buses that you are driving to do it in.
Anyway, rambling as usual. Less FB, less phone, more real life, HOPEFULLY more personal time to do things like writing, working out, studying, guitar, personal growth... reading!!! I friggin love these things, they are pros and worth the time and effort. and hey, its almost skating season!
I hope you find what makes you truly happy and you chase it down... life is shorter than we want it to be and it just goes by so fast, may as well spend that time doing the things that make you feel good, and hopefully with the people who make you feel good. Its a solid combo.
We ll have moments of happiness and joy that sneak up on us or overwhelm us in those excellent moments of celebration; birth of a child, good news for a family member or friend, a shared victory, an underdog win for your favourite hockey team. However it looks to you, those moments are really great and welcome and warm us when the dark times come.
Life is cyclical and it will always have ups and downs, its nature in all of its patterns just doing what it does. How we respond and process those ups and downs is really key, and Im finding, harder than I thought.
I have been dealing with a concept for awhile now (Over a decade, maybe?) regarding people in my life. Its a simple equation; do the pros outweigh the cons of this person in my life? This simple rule applies to everyone, family and friends. The truth is that we all have some weeding of the proverbial gardening that we can do in our lives that would in fact lead to better overall living. The trick is that its hard and sometimes messy, painful even.
The benefits of not having toxic personalities in ones life cant be understated. My personal issue is allowing these figures to stick around longer than they should because my "Pros" list isnt really the standard list. As with anything in life, revision and growth. Learning from things is the key...
which brings me to Facebook.
So I have been trying to get better at maintaining a semblance of peace during hard times. I want to say I have been successful but fuck that, I stumble and fail. It happens, probably gonna happen again and thats ok too. overall the steps are in the right direction; forward.
Facebook has been a source of entertainment (Which is usually a pro to me), but also has dragged me down and been a pain in the ass more times than not. Im as much to blame as anyone for allowing it, and allowing the buzz to get to me. Its not real life. I need to remind myself of that more than ever, The past year of negative US politics and so much garbage for news has really gotten to me. My personal life over the past year and a bit have been difficult, to understate the facts.
Its the equivalent of coming home from a really bad day at work and having to fight and argue with your loved ones all night. FB no longer brings me enough entertainment and no peace. It is a big tie sink and a lame addiction, Ive taken sabbaticals from it before and this is the same thing, a detox, but slightly different. Ill still be online, but Im rationing my usage. December has a bunch of stuff happening for obvious reasons and Ill need to check in on events but the goal is to actively check in and do any work/check ins/comments once a month. Just one day a month.
Once I post this on my page, Ill delete the app from my phone (My biggest distraction) and move on from there.
I want to maintain happiness and FB has more cons than pros now so, like all else, its got to go.
I want to chase my happiness, not another top 10 article, or "You'll never guess what happens next"...
I also will be trying an experiment in lessening my phone usage in general. Anyone else feel like their memory is shot and just feel dumber?
This topic seems to be coming up more and more with various people and its curious...but like, curious like something terrible is hiding in the basement curious, not curious like something cute and cuddly.
ahhhh devices, you're taking over the world, and we are the meat sack buses that you are driving to do it in.
Anyway, rambling as usual. Less FB, less phone, more real life, HOPEFULLY more personal time to do things like writing, working out, studying, guitar, personal growth... reading!!! I friggin love these things, they are pros and worth the time and effort. and hey, its almost skating season!
I hope you find what makes you truly happy and you chase it down... life is shorter than we want it to be and it just goes by so fast, may as well spend that time doing the things that make you feel good, and hopefully with the people who make you feel good. Its a solid combo.
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~Kirby